I read this when I had (note past tense) a relationship with a man who was in the 12-step program. The advice was good, but this will not mend all the problems you will have. You must be able to think and decide for yourself if you can continue even having a relationship with someone who is an alcoholic. In my case, I had to ultimately choose my own happiness. See Melodie Beattie's Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself, and you will be able to see the importance of looking out for yourself.